No the CSV needs to go on the booster pumping out of the cistern and before the pressure tank. The CSV will give you a strong constant pressure in the house and keeps the booster pump from cycling itself to death.
You are right that a 3 GPM Dole valve is what you need to make the well pump fill the cistern slowly. Now a Cycle Sensor can be used on the well pump. The Cycle Sensor will shut the pump off if/when the well is pumped dry, and will let you set a timer so the pump will restart automatically after the well has recouped for the amount of time you want.